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Summary:
I’m sharing my story when I had confirmed my real path in this journey and my faith to make a change. During a park visit with my daughter, I met a Cuban mother on her 60+ and daughter on her 30+. The older woman inquired about when I’m going to try for a sibling for my daughter, leading to a discussion about infertility and perimenopause. I explained the challenges women face after 35, including egg quality decline and symptoms like hot flashes, mood swings, and anxiety. It’s important to share our experiences to normalize these changes and encouraged women to speak up about their journey.
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I took a break from work, for mental Health, and during this period I was able to open my eyes and heart and see my call. While waiting in line for an activity, I meet a Cuban mother and her late 30 daughter. As we’re waiting in-line the mother asks me: “Hey, what are you waiting to have your second?”
I took a deep breath, and her daughter realized that wasn’t the proper question to make. After my second deep break I share with her my journey. I told her, bless your heart for that question, but I will tell you that I have tried and had tried hard, and unfortunately, was not meant to be. And I will explain you why. I explain to her that women’s go through a lot of things after turning 35 and one of the things is or egg quality get compromised. So basically, unfortunately, I was not able to do it because the time was not right. I ask the lady if she has ever spoken to her daughter about perimenopause? And the lady looked at my face, and she was kind of like, no, what is that? So I turned my attention to her daughter, and I told her, I’m going to give you the best advice ever. When women start 35 that’s when her body and health start experiencing some change. I explained about the hot flashes, the insomnia, the hair loss, that felt that people will not understand me, mood swings and other symptoms.
I noticed as I’m talking to the young lady, I see her mom knocking her head as I say, yes, and then I turn to her and told her: “You know what? You’re knocking your head, because right now I just give you the answer you wanted 20 years ago. I just told you what you were going through 20 years ago, and you thought that you were sick, or you were going mad, or you were crazy”, and then I add this is my advice to you. You must share that information with your daughter, because she cannot feel the same way you felt 20 years ago.
Perimenopause is something normal. I see it as a big change with women goes through like when we get our period for first time poverty. It is the same thing. After watching the movie Inside Out, I realized it that we as women go through this change when we start puberty for the first time, when our we start our period for the first time, it is rough. We go through all those feelings, the mood swings, the angriness, the smell… And then when our body is going is going to transition to menopause, or egg reserve start getting less and less, when our fertility clock is closing, it’s making our reproductive system is trying to shut down. That’s when we go through a new change again, and it’s a little rougher.
Why we heard more about perimenopause, so now social media, people are more open and bring awareness. Women are not afraid to share information with the right people. Social media, internet has played a big blessing in this, because in the past, there was no way you will know what that woman from India was going through. Back in the days, we didn’t know that in Austria there was a lady that was going through all this in silence. At the end sharing is power. Don’t be afraid of speaking up. Don’t be afraid of saying I’m sorry, but I cannot do that now. I’m going through a mood swing, or I am going through a hot flash. Let’s make it normal. Let’s bring our knowledge to the women out there that believe she’s lonely, lets educate our boys to support their partners and love ones during this journey.
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